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Guys! It’s OK to Not Be OK


There is an upwards trend in society of people feeling increasingly isolated and cut off from the community around them. Many people chuck getting out and and about in the too hard basket. It’s cold, I’m tired, I’m having a down day and I feel like a dick turning up to stuff alone… We feel ya on all these. However forcing yourself out of the house and getting amongst something is great for our emotional and mental well being.

Statistically men in particular are prone to loneliness more so than women. Men are also less likely to keep up with friendships or spend quality time just communicating with their mates, which adds to that feeling of isolation. If you feel like this is you or someone you know, here are some great resources to help re-connect.

If you’re single and looking to mingle offers events so you can meet people, for friendship or dating, in person rather than scrolling through endless faces on dating apps.


For those with a green thumb, check out your local Community Gardens. Heading down to your nearest cabbage patch a couple of times a week provides a great opportunity to get out of the house, get your hands dirty and meet some new people all at the same time. Click here for more details


If you want to take some more time out to discuss men’s health in a supportive and caring environment? Sites like Get The Tools and Head First provide a network for men to understand what they are going through and how they can help others going through the same thing. It’s ok to ask for help. People judge a lot less than you think.


In need of a good laugh? Pub quizzes are a great way to break up the week, support your local, socialise and to test your knowledge of 1980’s New Zealand sporting legends and all of the Spice Girls greatest hits. Find your nearest pub quiz here


Or if you are keen to try something a bit different? Check out the awesome nights at Bitchin Bingo.


Interested in personal growth, overcoming challenges or listening to other men’s stories of changing their life for the better? Essentially men is a program focused on helping men be the best versions of themselves. Check them out here


Love to tinker, but don’t have the space. Menz Sheds are areas dedicated to giving men a place to build and repair to their heart’s content. With no age restriction and the concept reaching New Zealand wide. Men’s Sheds not only provide the space to complete any project but to socialise too. Find out more and locate your nearest shed here.


Finally, a great way to help out in the community is through taking some time out to get to know the people within it. Big Brother Programmes are a great way to not only form lifelong friendships, but to help support youth in your local area. Check out Brothers in arms, Big Buddy and Big Brothers Big Sisters here.

Have you thought about talking to someone online? There are some great options such as the website Better Help.   Here you can try therapy online so it’s even easier to get the help you need.

We’re not going to sit here and pretend that digging up carrots or answering questions about test matches is the answer to all your problems. However, getting out, pushing your boundaries, meeting new people and having a bit of fun is a great first step to a better head space.




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